“Great interview with Australian PA expert Counsellor & Psychotherapist Stan Korosi this Thursday on our website Dad’s On The Air & on iTunes.”
Stay tuned for my interview about parental alienation on the community radio network “Dad’s On The Air”. Check out the ‘Scourge of Parental Alienation on Dads On The Air’ to hear the interview by podcast (scroll down to the bottom of the article to listen).
For those of you wondering why I was interviewed by Dads On The Air given that I have always presented myself as gender neutral, promoting both men and women, mothers and fathers my answer is as follows:
- Firstly, it is valid to be interviewed from the perspective of being a father because I am a father and stepfather and because fathers would be interested in this perspective. However, as you listen to the podcast you will hear that it favours both genders,
- Secondly, I would be happy to be interviewed by “Mums On The Air” or equivalent, noting that approximately half of my client at any given time are women; mothers who are the target parents of the egregious form of child abuse and family violence that is parental alienation. However as far as I can tell there is no “Mums On The Air”. An initial search of social media websites came up with more fathers groups supporting each other against parental alienation than mothers groups, notwithstanding that there are a growing number of non-gendered social media support groups starting up, and
- Here in Australia, a well-known fathers support group, Dads In Distress has started a ‘Mums In Distress” group to help mothers address similar issues that fathers face.
So, an open question folks, in the face of the “epidemic of family violence” here in Australia at least where are the women’s groups who are able to support mothers whose children have been alienated from them by their fathers?
Do women’s groups have a problem with women, mothers being the victims of parental alienation either being falsely accused, which is a form of family violence or being a target parent and having a loving relationship with their children ruptured by an alienating father?
I am asking because I do not know the answer. All I have to go on are the anecdotal reports of some of my women clients who tell me that they have nowhere to go once their relationship with the children is ruptured or under threat. If you do not know where women can go to be supported in the context parental alienation especially in Australia please let me know.
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Hi,
I am so glad you have decided to raise this issue and as a women going though PA I think I have a few answers.
In my case I feel great shame that I have been alienated from my child. Few people understand PA and how a Stockholm syndrome type effect occurs in the child. Every time I speak about PA I am shamed so I do not speak anymore. When I shared my story on PA Aus it was deleted, as are all stories that suggest our courts are not fair.
This internet sensorship has shocked me and as courts are closed I believe we can not speak about it.
I have heard many stories from women similar to mine where court supports the abuser.
I feel our courts ignore domestic violence, PA and perjury enabling the abuse to continue. Court orders can only be enforced by finding enough money to return to court. This makes situations like mine continue over years, it’s been 5 years now with little contact and none at all for a year. My baby is only 12.
Hope this helps, best wishes Jo
I am very pleased that you felt able to write about this. As I have said before, at any given time about half of my clients are women who have been alienated from their children so I am aware that women and mothers can be target parents just like men and fathers. I am also aware how false allegations of parental alienation are used against both men and women to disguise abuse and family violence.
It is very difficult to discuss a particular case in a social forum because of the strict confidentiality provisions of most family law jurisdictions, especially in Australia. This is why it is best that you seek confidential counselling where you may speak freely of your situation and be protected by the privacy provisions of the family Law act that you would otherwise breach in a social media context.
Our family law system here in Australia is confused and conflicted about how to deal with parental alienation. In my experience, women and mothers face a very special kind of social punishment and sanction from other women because unlike men, women tend to be judged on the basis of their parenting and relational skills.
I am sorry to hear about your situation. I regret to say it is not unusual and you are correct that one has to be very well funded indeed to pursue further proceedings in court. Sometimes we can achieve better results outside the legal system.