When I first started specialising as a practitioner in the field of parental alienation in Australia, some years ago now, there was, as far as I could tell, no one else involved in providing dedicated support, intervention, education and advocacy in this field. I, and others like me had nowhere to go for support.
Indeed, there was no franchise for social or community appreciation of the traumatic experience of alienation upon children and alienated/rejected parents.
Therefore there has been a justification for me to take on multiple roles across the dimensions of individual support, intervention, education and advocacy, supporting both individuals and groups. Indeed, my mission and mandate was to raise both grass roots and professional awareness of parental alienation and work with individuals.
Since then, at least three organisations have now been established in Australia to lobby and advocate for social and legal change for parental alienation. I have worked with a number of individuals who have expressed an intention to join various groups or to start their own initiatives. There are now probably over a thousand parents, many with whom I have been engaged, involved in social media based parental alienation support groups in Australia.
Given from where I started, this is an excellent development in parental alienation consciousness in Australia. It also imposes requirements upon me develop a policy for engaging with established and emerging groups, mindful that my original engagement with people has generally been in a therapeutic context and that my focus has always been upon my mission and vision of intervention and reconnection and values of inclusivity, non-partisanship.
With this in mind, in response to the emerging franchise for community and social appreciation of parental alienation, it is appropriate that I evolve the capacity in which I engage with any particular advocacy or support group, organisation or entity. This is especially the case where my principal involvement has been via therapeutic relationships.
In many situations, I believe a consulting relationship can better support inclusivity, non-partisanship and better serve many groups and individuals in exploring involvement in the parental alienation field. This capacity allows other groups to engage me without crossing boundaries between advocacy, support and therapy.
It is a measure of just how far parental alienation consciousness has evolved in Australia, that I can now say as an alienated parent of at least a decade now, that someone like me who had nowhere to go 10 years ago for support, who felt they were on their own, can now turn to multiple avenues for help.
Hi Stan,
Love your work and your passion for what you do.
Kind regards
A published saying on the DIg website struck a chord:
“Someday you’ll realize the damage you’ve caused”.
In 2007, I was abused by my now ex-husband and three eldest children. I called my then husband and said: “To use our children against their own mother is wrong and you will be punished for that.”
He replied, “Whose going to punish me, you?”
To that response I replied, “Our children will suffer long term from what they have done to me; and no I will not punish you but God will as what you did was wrong.”
My then husband let out an evil laugh and ended the call.
The parental alienation and abuse has not stopped and continues to this day. As a direct result I suffer from flashbacks and episodes of PTSD. The NSW Legal system aided and abetted the abuser, which empowered him.
Therefore, I support the work you are doing and hope for a successful outcome so as to help others dealing with PAS.
I can relate to this traumatising situation.
This also happened to me. I have 3 sons also and 22 years on history has repeated itself, and being a grandmother is now traumatising too. History has repeated itself and no matter how much love you give, the brainwashing is still apparent.
Take care and be kind to yourself
Im currently going through the same thing with my children who said they are so scared to see me. Child protective services gotinvolved, but they unfortunately dont understand Parental alienation. They think that they should accept what the children say because the children are old enough to have a voice. It is frightening that this has been allowed to happen even with all the so called experts on side I am now having to battle in the childrens court.
The abuser has has my children in Emergency care his care
Wow this is exactly what is happening to me right now. I feel so powerless hopeless and I have no idea what other steps to take. I am so scared how my child will suffer and is probably suffering as a result of this.
She has not seen her little brother and myself for over 6 weeks now and it is heartbreaking to see the sadness in my son’s eyes.
It has now been two years since I had any contact with my daughter. I have no idea of where she lives with her mother and her mother’s lover.
I was in my daughters words “the best dad ever”
I was her “guardian angel here on earth “
We had a relationship that everyone who knew us was jealous of. We were inseparable.
One father’s day she got up at 4.00am cleaned the house and cooked me breakfast. I normally got up at 5.00 but I deliberately stayed in bed not realising she was already up.
When I went to the kitchen at 8.00 am I found her in tears. “ Your special breakfast is cold “. Lots of cuddles and a microwave set things right. Three weeks later upon returning from her mother’s i was greeted with “ hate you I never want to see you again it’s all your fault “.
She was 13 at the time.
Her mother has defied all court orders to attend counselling and she ensure my daughter’s continued contact.
Two years later not a day goes by I do not think of her and wonder what damage has been done to her. (She now has no contact with any of her siblings from my side who love her dearly)
Children need BOTH parents and parents need to be a part of their children’s life
God forgive my ex for I can’t.
It is seems unlikely I will ever see her again and if that be the case i hope my daughter never realises the extent of the pain she has been manipulated into causing to so many people or she will die from embarrassment / guilt.
She traded a loving dad for a mother’s lies